Adoption is one choice available to individuals who find themselves facing an unplanned pregnancy. Most women don’t want to consider adoption for a variety of reasons and one of the primary reasons is that they are afraid it will make them feel too sad. You should know that this emotion is normal and understandable. Carrying a baby for nine months involves bonding, so separation is going to be painful.
But adoption also holds hope. It offers a future for your child that you can feel good about for the rest of your life and you can be proud of the power you have to make the dreams of an adoptive family come true. Studies show that teenage moms who place their children for adoption have overall greater satisfaction in their lives – in their work, finances and relationships. They are also more optimistic about the future and less likely to suffer from depression.
As well, more than ten thousand studies show that a loving, two-parent home is best for a baby. So your decision to place for adoption shows true selflessness and a loving heart.
Today’s open adoption is less traumatic for mother and baby than the old closed adoption in which mom had no say and most often didn’t know what happened to her baby. Open adoption allows you to be in control right from the start. You will be the one making the decision and you will pick out the parents you want for your baby. You get to meet with them and come up with a “contract” that outlines how often you will see the baby, what type of contact you want (face to face, pictures, phone calls, etc). The decision to make an adoption plan can be made at any time during your unplanned pregnancy and even after your baby is born.
Planning an adoption for your child can be emotionally difficult. There will be grieving involved and it’s really important to have support throughout the entire adoption journey. You may find the support you need from your family and friends, through the adoption agency or through the Pregnancy Care Centre who will be with you from the very start.