Breastfeeding may not be everything you thought it would be, and that does not make you a bad parent.
What may work well in a book may be quite different when it comes to your own baby. Parenthood books are very general, meant to cover a wide range of people. Breastfeeding is one of these general topics. There is an endless amount of reading material on the benefits of breastfeeding, to the point of feeling shameful if you had decided against it. However, breastfeeding is not for everybody, and it may not be for you.
Breastfeeding is supposed to be a natural feeling, a bond between you and your child. So, what if you discover that this is quite the opposite? What if the idea of your baby latching onto you gives you more of an unpleasant vibe, then that wistful feeling? Does this mean you do not love your child? Not at all. Everybody has their own comfort level. What works for one mother does not mean it will work for you. Aside from ease, there are other reasons why breastfeeding is simply uncomfortable feeling. From nipple pain, cracks and bleeding to babies born with teeth, there are many reasons why you can be shocked to discover that you do not feel that bond when you try to feed your baby. There are other ways to bond and some work quite well over feeding time with a bottle. This does not make you any less of a mother. It makes you adaptable to the situation you are in.
The Timing Does Not Work
It is not unusual for a baby to feed every couple of hours, day and night. If you are a parent that is not privileged to maternity leave, this feeding schedule can really interfere with your own sleep and ability to properly function outside of your home. Breastfeeding puts you as the sole nutrient provider, your spouse or partner will be unable to help. If you are finding that the schedule your baby needs to eat puts your own health at risk, then you might want to seek additional help by allowing yourself and others to help feed your baby, via a bottle.
Your Baby is Still Hungry
Breastfeeding isn’t always the 100 percent solution to feeding a baby. If you find that your baby is hungry more and more often, they may not be getting enough to eat. It can be due to improper latch or even slower milk production. No matter what the reason is, however, the result is the same: a very tired mother and a very cranky baby. If you are pulling your hair out trying to keep up with your baby’s feeding, try some formula. It might just do the trick. Regardless of your views on your rights and breastfeeding, in the end, what matters is that your baby had enough to eat.
There is a lot of pressure put on mothers to breastfeed their child. While it does carry a lot of very significant benefits, it is not for everybody. You are the only one that knows what works for you and your child. If you find that breastfeeding simply isn’t for you, do not take it as defeat. Take it as a sign, that you are looking out for your family and are capable of making informed decisions on what is best for them.